Clearing out mind clutter starts by being aware of all the
thoughts that run through your head.
know...the stress, the
worry, the negative thoughts, the imagined
just waiting to happen, and the many ways we're
quite mean to ourselves...
...all inside our own heads!
I affectionately call that stuff 'mind
If you looked at how much time you spend each and every day,
letting your thoughts run away with the same thoughts that made you
feel bad yesterday, last week, last month, and last year, it's no
wonder you often feel behind, overwhelmed, and stressed out.
Your thoughts play a HUGE role in how your day goes.
I'm sure that's not a surprise to you, right?
But did you know that just because you have a thought, doesn't mean
(Just like everything you read in the papers isn't always true,
One of the reasons those thoughts keep running over and over in our
heads for years is because we never actually stop to question whether
they are true for us.
We simply believe them as gospel and let them run amok inside our head.
What if you slowed down enough to actually listen to the phrases you
say to yourself, and see if they even make any sense?
Write these emotional
clutter thoughts down
. Put them in black and white (and
don't make them
'sound pretty' when you do...write down what you are actually saying to
yourself in your head.)
You'll be shocked.
Any of these sound familiar?
- "Aaaarggghh - I'm
- "Why didn't I work harder on that project?!? I'm such a loser!
do anything right?!?"
- "I really messed
up that presentation. I'll never figure this out."
- "My sister would have done it better. She's always better than me."
- "In fact, everyone is always better than me!"
These thoughts are MEAN.
And they create a ton of
. They make you feel BAD.
Would you EVER say these things to your best friend? Or your daughter
And you're saying them
, the one person you can never get
Once you've noticed what you're saying to yourself, you can start to
change the words
Use language that's more
affirming and more supportive
. And make
sure that the new way you talk to yourself is still true, so you'll
believe it (but you'll be supported rather than put down.)
- "Looks like I really didn't want to do that, since I really
put it off.
Wonder why? What could I
do differently next time?"
made a couple of mistakes during that presentation. The rest seemed
pretty good, though. I bet I can ask someone to help me improve...I can
- "I've got my
own strengths (and my own weaknesses). How about I focus
on what I do well?"
It may seem a little corny, or too simplistic, but when you start
rewriting your own thoughts
, you will start feeling and
differently as well.
It takes time to gently
clear out mind clutter
like, when you were a kid, wiggling a tooth that was loose...bit by
And it's worth it!